~by Elizabeth Lapp
“...even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit...” I Peter 3:4
Wives are to be adorned inwardly with a meek and quiet spirit, something God finds very valuable. Many women expect their husbands to make them happy, meet their emotional needs, be punctual at dinnertime, fix things that break, and so much more. When these expectations are disappointed, they sulk, nag, cry, or attempt the silent treatment. But a woman with a meek spirit yields to God her right to her husband's love, time, and attention. When her husband meets her needs, she will recognize the gift and experience sincere gratitude. Gratitude motivates; nagging never does. When a husband fixes the leaky faucet, a wife has two choices. She can say, “Well, it's about time!” or she can say, “Oh, thank you so much! I appreciate your fixing this. You are such a good “fixer” man.” This second reply will make him much more willing to fix something the next time!
Having a quiet spirit means believing God will work through the husband for the good of the family, and willingly submitting to his leadership. A woman lacking a quiet spirit is pushy, argumentative, and anxious. She takes things into her own hands, does not trust her husband's judgment, and resists him. The latter attitude does not encourage the good qualities in a man.
Some women appear to have a meek and quiet spirit because they are shy or soft-spoken and polite by nature. However, they may be hiding a very agitated spirit inside. Other women enter a room with their mouth and are loud and boisterous. But that may simply be their personality, and they may be at rest inside.
Meekness and quietness are an attitude of the heart discerned by a husband and valued by God.
Do you have a meek and quiet spirit?