~by Elizabeth Lapp
“Honour thy father and mother... that it may be well with thee...” Ephesians 6:2-3
There are a lot of stories today about children being abandoned by parents. Mothers or fathers leave their families in pursuit of a life lived for self. Those abandoned children are let with a tremendous void and longing for love, security, and acceptance. Many stories are written on the subject. Studies are done; answers are sought.
There is another group of abandoned people, a group left with few resources. Children are abandoning their aged parents. In my work with widows, I hear the sad cries of the heart. When these women need to go to the hospital, they dial 911. If they fall, no one misses them. As holidays come and go, they eat alone. Their phones do not ring, they are not invited places, and no one visits them. “Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction...” James 1:27 says. I have heard a church elder say, “We don't have to visit the widows. We have small groups and fellowship dinners at our church.” Nothing could be farther from the truth! What I enjoy and long for most are visits, invitations, and phone calls. Without those, I feel lonely and lost.
I was so touched by a story I heard one morning. A lady was having her ninetieth birthday. Her grandson, taking time out of his busy day, came to cook her favorite breakfast and eat with her. What a gesture of love! What a way to honor an aged grandmother! I know of one lady who hasn't heard from her son for years. He never calls, and never comes home. A select few women tell me with great pride that their sons call every evening.
Take another look at Ephesians 6:3: “Honor thy parents that it may be well with thee...” If you bless them, you will be blessed. Could it be then that if you do not bless them, you will not be blessed?